For many people, Valentine’s Day represents an opportunity to share their love with that “special” someone. But what if you don’t have anyone “special” to celebrate the holiday with? The Institute on Aging reports that nearly one third of senior citizens (11.3 million) live alone. This might lead you to wonder how Boomers are spending Valentine’s Day and what they might do if they aren’t dating or with someone.
The good news is that you don’t have to have a significant other to express your Valentine’s wish. You can make the decision to demonstrate your appreciation for many of the people who have meant something to you through your life. In a day and age where life is busy and often your family members are demographically separated, it is important to recognize the many people who are significant to you. Maybe they attend church or synagogue with you and share your same common beliefs and values. Perhaps they live in your neighborhood and you frequently wave and stop to chat about each other’s families.
Who might you reach out to? February is often grey and cold. It can leave you feeling unmotivated and lethargic.
But what if you were willing to devote each day in February to sending a card or a text to one person who has made a difference in your life or is currently serving you in some capacity? Scan your life and list the people who have helped to shape you or brought something meaningful into your existence, and ask yourself, “How can I let them know that they are special to me today?”
Valentine’s Day is an opportunity for you to express your appreciation to someone special. This is so important in a day and age when we can be isolated by technology and distance.
It is those small acts of kindness that make a difference, so why not use this month to share your appreciation for the people who are there for you or who have shaped your life? Maybe that person is the mail carrier, or your grocer, or your pet sitter. Perhaps it is a relative that you only see on an annual basis.
Imagine their delight when they get a Valentine card or note from you letting them know that you were thinking of them.
When people complain that there is not enough kindness in the world, you can smile and know that you used February to spread a little gratitude on a cold, wintery day.
Mahatma Gandhi said, “Be the change you wish to see in the world.” This statement means that if you are desiring connection from other people, you need to start by creating that connection yourself.
Many people complain that their lives feel empty. This is a designated day for you to demonstrate connection. Valentine’s Day is an excellent reminder to all of us that we can appreciate our family, friends, coworkers and neighbors for the unique qualities they bring into our lives.
By Carol Juergensen Sheets, Contributing Writer